I just read this amazing little piece (I suggest you read it), which delves into the difficulties of making new friends when you’re in a new city. I can relate to this; one year ago I moved to a city in which I knew no one (aside from my lovely, wonderful boyfriend). It hasn’t always been easy. Post-school, making friends requires a whole new skill set. And effort. But libraries – libraries are the same. And they are the perfect place to go alone, because thousands of friends are waiting for you between the pages of books. Always.
It gets better: if you are really feeling friendly, why not get official about it? Most public libraries have a “Friends of the Library” group that you can get involved with. You donate your time and/or money, and give something back to the place that has given you so much. When I was at the CLA Conference of this year, it was pointed out to me how amazing and rare it is for an organization to have a “friends group”. It is a real testament to the power of libraries, when patrons create friends groups to show support.
If you’re looking for something less involved, check out your library’s events or programs. Drop in to enjoy an author reading, book club meeting, or “read dating“. I guarantee there will be something going on at your library, and they tend to be very accessible and social events.
But new friends don’t have to be people. As much as I love me some human interaction, a book can fill the void quite nicely.
“For friends… do but look upon good books: they are true friends, that will neither flatter nor dissemble.” – Francis Bacon
“A blessed companion is a book, – a book that, fitly chosen, is a lifelong friend,… a book that, at a touch, pours its heart into our own.” – Douglas Jerrold
Lonely or not – go to the library, and take home a friend. Need ideas? Check out my favourites here.